Having met this phenomenal lady earlier this month, I’ve decided to designate Ricki Lake, actress, producer, and television host, as “Goal Digger” of the Month for February, 2012. I founded the award to honor and celebrate women for their entrepreneurial spirit, positive attitude, innovation, and desire to motivate and empower other women. Ricki Lake is the second recipient of the award, succeeding Kimora Lee Simmons, who was named January Goal Digger of the Month.
Not only is Ricki an accomplished actress, TV host, and business woman, but she’s also used her roles and positions to educate women on issues that are important today. Her life-changing childbirth and weight-loss experiences serve as positive examples to women, and she has successfully overcome abuse, a divorce, and a fire which destroyed her home. Through her life and accomplishments, Ricki Lake is the perfect example of what a woman can achieve, under any circumstances.
Congratulations Ricki and I’m happy to be one of the founding members of your awesome Friends of Ricki community!
The Friends of Ricki was founded by Ricki Lake in partnership with Dabney Porte and Britt Michaelian of Girlfriends Productions LLC. Ricki met Dabney and Britt via their global community Social Media Girlfriends and are the producers of the Friends of Ricki Community as well.
Note: The recipients of the Goal Digger of the Month Award will be chosen based on their success in business, as well as their desire to serve as a role model for other women.
Every month in 2012, I will be announcing the “Goal Digger of the Month” Award, and the first Goal Digger of the Month award winner is (drum roll please) Kimora Lee Simmons.
Kimora embodies all of the salient attributes of a Goal Digger, which is a woman who:
1. desires wealth in all area of her life.
2. seeks the secrets of the millionaire mind.
3. has the smarts, optimism, integrity and passion to do it herself.
In this case, Kimora Lee Simmons is a multi-millionaire business woman who started off with humble, middle class upbringing in St. Louis, Missouri. Simmons has the qualities that exemplify a Goal Digger, including an entrepreneurial spirit, positive attitude, innovativeness, and a desire to motivate and empower other women.
As the former co-owner of Baby Phat, Kimora Lee Simmons has been named one of the top “hardest working mothers in Hollywood” by Forbes Magazine. She is the owner of KLS Design Group and the author of Fabulosity: What It Is and How to Get It.
Skeptics (or haters) may say that Kimora made her millions by marrying rich (She was married to Russell Simmons 1998-2006), basically using her feminine wiles to snag a rich man. Well, 10 years prior Kimora was walking the fashion runways of Europe (Chanel), and was obviously making her own money.
Kimora is an example of a woman who sets her eye on the prize and doesn’t give up until she achieves her goals.
What about Kimora exemplifies a Goal Digger? Why should YOU be nominated as Goal Digger of the Month?
I’m all about women making their own money. In fact, my book Goal Digger is about empowering women to make their own money (with tips, tricks and strategies from rich and successful men who’ve done it themselves!). The reason I called my book “Goal Digger” is because some of my friends said I was acting like a Gold Digger by only dating rich men.
Gold digging is for the rookies, I thought. I wasn’t digging for gold; I was digging for information, inspiration, and the ‘how-to.’ I didn’t want pearls – I wanted pearls of wisdom!
So for all those girls out there who want to turn a gold digging situation into a goal digging one, check out the hints below:
Instead of accepting money from a rich boyfriend or partner, ask them how to invest it—after all, they know that’s the secret to making their wealth grow. It’s also true that if you already have money, you should ask his advice about the best places to invest it. It’s one of the areas of his expertise.
Act like him—he’s confident and assured in everything he does. This quality in itself is worth its weight in gold.
Talk about the things he talks about. Listen and learn so you can contribute valuably to conversations about politics, business, and global issues. When you know what you’re talking about, you’ll be taken seriously.
Just because you’re with a rich guy, don’t use that as an excuse not to work. If you want to be rich, do what he does—work and work smart and hard!
Stop focusing on gold digging—wealthy men can spot a gold digger a mile away. Nobody likes being used. They want you to enjoy being with them, not their money.
When you do focus on something, give it your all. Like a laser, stay with it until the task is completed.
Be decisive. Every rich guy I dated made firm decisions without hesitating. The only time they took their time and contemplated an issue was when they were changing their mind. It’s a universal trait among the rich and established.
Always remember that you should value his advice not his money. His money might be limited, but once you know what he knows, your opportunities are unlimited.
Once you integrate the above lessons in your life, you’ll begin to reap real rewards. The payoff: You get an education that you won’t get anywhere else in the world. Plus, when he can look at you without seeing dollar signs in your eyes, that’s when you become valuable to him and the real relationship begins. Rich men and goal diggers naturally attract.
(Information taken from my interview with relationship expert, Whitney Casey, for her book, The Man Plan.)
Let me cut straight to the chase. In Fall 2007, I embarked on a media tour to promote my book, Goal Digger: Lessons Learned from the Rich Men I Dated. I was optimistic, wide-eyed, and as naive as you can be, but totally excited because I had a well-conceived self-help book (at least, I’d like to think so!), with a optimistic message teaching women the 13 concepts I learned from wealthy men on how to achieve business and financial success.
This optimism faded quickly.
The Event
One of my very first media interviews was with Jean Chatzky in NYC. For you who don’t know Jean Chatzky, please let me explain. Jean’s the financial darling on the Today Show, a bestselling author, and the “personal finace” guru we all love, until…
Hell Hath No Fury Like a Woman’s Scorn
Jean didn’t seem to like me. I walked into the recording room at her satellite radio show, and all I got was an icy reception. You know those type of receptions, the ones only insecure people seem to master:
-The glance up and down, and then up and down again.
-The quick smile that turns instantly into a frown.
-The “I’m not interested in talking to you” eyes.
And, all I could think, Was she having an off day? Did she burn her tongue on her morning coffee? Was I showing too much cleavage?
Of course, I will never know.
But I did know this to be true: this interview was going to S-U-C-K.
I immediately sat down, all smiles trying to break the ice, as the producer put on my headphones.
We started the interview with a series of questions to set the context of the book. She asked me why I wrote the book, and I said, perfectly rehearsed, when one of the rich men I dated challenged me by saying “You are industrious enough to be your own millionaire.” I also mentioned that these men motivated and inspired me, and were more like mentors than lovers.
Bus Dodging Time
Jean asked me if I was a millionaire and I said no. But to be fair, I added, the men I dated were in their late 40s, 50s, and on average they created their wealth during their 40s and 50s. She concurred.
Then, there it was. The question to end all questions. The big kahuna. The question I wasn’t prepared to answer.
Did any of these men give you money?
Oh, snap!
Ladies of the Night
When I was younger my father had a t-shirt that said, “Love from the Ladies of the Night*” He would wear it with his jean shorts and slippers. It was the early 80s. Ladies of the night were my parent’s euphemism for prostituites. Street Walkers. Hookers.
Jean had another euphemism for it. Working Girl.
Did any of these men give you money? Jean asked.
Bub-te-de-bub, Bub-te-de-bub, Bub-te-de-bub, Bub-te-de-bub Bub-te-de-bub, Bub-te-de-bub was the only thing that came out of my mouth.
I verbally stumpled like a stutterer on crack. (No offence to stutterers or crack heads).
Then I told her the truth, Yes.
“Hmmmm,” she said. “You sound like a working girl to me.”
Double snap!
Hurt Feelings
My world came crumbling to the ground, and I didn’t have time to explain. I mean saying, “I dated a man for 3 months and at that point he said he wanted to take care of me because I was a single mom and he didn’t want me to work so I could travel with him to the South of France and hang out with him and live in his 2 million dollar apartment so I could be safe and he really cared about me oh yeah and we dated for almost 1 year,” didn’t really fly. As you and any media coach can see, none of that comes out in eloquent sound bytes!
When I realized what she said, and finally got out of groveling explanation mode, my raw emotions started flooding in, ranging from:
Pugnacity: This bitch called me a what!? Oh no she didn’t! (Insert double snap)
to
Shame: Oh my, I hope Isabelle doesn’t grow up to think this way about her mother.
to
Pragmatism: I flew out to New York for this shit?!
to
Dejection: I can’t do this any more. It’s over. Done.
Overcompensating for Hurt Feelings
But to answer Jean’s statement (It wasn’t a question, but a statement, so it doesn’t call for an answer, but humor me!), hell-to-the-yes, I’m a working girl. At 16, I started my career as a working girl on the corner of 18th and Capitol in Sacramento, CA – not turning tricks, but making cappuccinos and burnt bagels. Then I continued my salicious ways as a scholarship receipt and full-time intern at Hewlett Packard (HP). Then I did a stint of modeling, acting, and waitressing, and assistant work and other code words for “what pretty girls do to make money while attending UCLA.” Then I backpacked around the world, not on my back(!), but on savings and a round-the-world ticket my parents bought me for a graduation present. Then I traveled around the world again as a travel writer. Then I did a stint as a married women to a construction worker, then as a technical writer for a bio-tech company, which I then parlayed into freelance technical writing business, which I continued until I published my book. Now I have a successful coaching business, which pretty much keeps me out of trouble. Oh yeah, I’m a mom too.
So, enough of my rant, but my self esteem sure feels better!
Are VCs (Venture Capitalists) just glorified Sugar Daddies?
Last year, I started thinking more about my “fall from grace” when founder and former CEO of a huge adult dating website, which was later acquired by an adult media company for a zillion dollars, called me out of the blue and asked me about my book. I opened up to him (my heart, not my legs, mind you) about my experience with Ms. Jean, how she grilled me big time for having a Sugar Daddy, and that I essentially stopped all promotion of my book. He then said to me, in a comforting tone, I had a Sugar Daddy too. They’re called VCs. I laughed, but he was dead pan serious. He said he “prostituted” himself for venture capital to build his business for a profitable exit for all parties involved. I was silenced.
Every Cloud Has a Pair of Silver Stilettos
I’m a girl who truly believes every experience in life has merit, so I am going to look at Ms. Jean and her comment as a lesson in disguise. So this is what I learned. What about you?
1)Matthew 7:1-3 1Do not judge, or you too will be judged. 2For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. 3“Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?
2) Empowered women must empower. When you are a person (especially a woman) with strength, power, and influence, isn’t your job to lift people up, not tear people down. This was a huge lesson for me. (Someone forward this blog to Jean Chatzky!)
3) Own it. I squirmed like a jelly fish when Jean Chatzky called me a “working girl.” As Martin Luther King, Jr. stated, A man can’t ride your back unless it’s bent. Straighten that back and own it, don’t let people have power over you.
4) Don’t care about what other people think. This is the most freeing of the four. The day you stop worrying about what people think, is the day you start living…
Of course, it took me a few years to understand this. But, I’m still a work in progress.
(If you are interested in the pictures, the first one is for the MILPH 2008 calendar [And you know what, it would be the perfect picture if it weren't for the bad highlight job] Nonetheless, it definitely says “Working Girl” to me. The other two are me being silly with stock photography.)
* Correction (from my brother) Dad’s shirt said “Love from the Ladies of the Night” and yes “ladies of the night” is a funny euphemism for prostitutes … in this case our father worked the graveyard shift at the post office with a cadre of female employees. Dad was a great supervisor and I believe the ladies made that shirt for him as a sort of tongue and cheek gesture about how good and nice he was to work for.
“Mommy that woman looked at you and then looked at the other woman and rolled her eyes.”
That was what my daughter Izzy said as we walked out of the Left Bank in Larkspur, CA the other night.
Did I spit in her food? No. Did I steal her man? No. Did I step on her new pair of shoes? No, I just simply wallked by.
Well, scratch that, I walked by in a pixie-length Tracy Reese dress, Fendi knee-high boots, and not-so-obligatory wig.
When I was Isabelle’s age, my mother told me that there are two reasons women talk about (or ‘hate on’) other women. She said they are either jealous or upset.
(Hate, as referenced in the title, alludes to the Urban term ‘hate on.’)
Let’s examine this for a bit.
1) Jealously.
The jealous are troublesome to others, but a torment to themselves. ~William Penn, Some Fruits of Solitude, 1693
The other night I met a woman who went from a size 12 to size 4. She mentioned her co-workers, and even her husband, acted differently with her as a size 4. They seemed threatened, uncomfortable. They thought she was more fun to be around when she was depressed and less confident, but as soon as she pulled out the tight jeans and stilettos – game over.
Here’s the question I have for you – Was that about her or her husband and co-workers?
Some more questions. Doesn’t the very action of rolling your eyes or talking smack about the woman with the tight jeans and confident smile just reflect your own insecurities? Why not be happy for their success, or look at it as inspiration?
When you feel pangs of jealously, instead of rolling your eyes, why not examine why you are feeling jealous.
Are you happy with your life?
Are you grateful with what you have?
Do you feel there are things in life you need to accomplish? What do you need to do to accomplish these things?
Are you scared? Anxious? (Maybe you need a professional to help.)
Do you feel other people’s success is a threat? Why?
I know if I feel a tinge of jealousy, I take it inward and use it as a source of inspiration. Either I need to A) Step up my game and use this other person as a source of inspiration or B) Be gratuful for what I have and be happy for other people’s success.
Case in point. A good friend of mine is gorgeous, curvy, and confident – and definitely has some “junk in the trunk.” This year we were at a club in NYC and this beautiful, size 0 supermodel walked in with some leather hot-pants that exposed her perky butt. My friend said, “Damn, that girl looks hot. I need to get back to that size so I can sport those shorts.” I concurred. And we moved on with our drinks.
End of conversation.
There was no reason to tear this woman apart. There was no eye rolling, or “Who does she think she is?”
Because, would that be productive?
Hell to the NO.
2) Upset.
There are many reasons someone can upset you. But, first things first, you have to KNOW the person to be upset by them. You can’t be upset by someone you don’t know. You can be offended by someone you don’t know, but that’s another problem.
So, you can be upset by someone you know for:
Being obnoxious or rude.
Hurting your feelings.
Talking smack about you.
“Stealing” your boyfriend, partner, husband
Disappointing you.
Acting inappropriately
Forgetting to return the dress you let them borrow a year ago
Plus more (The list can go on and on until infinity and beyond)
Personally, I have a pretty high UPSET threshold. Someone has to kick me in the stomach, or call me a prostitute to get my feathers ruffled. (Actually, there is one person who can get me in a fetal position pretty quickly – my daughter. It usually involves her saying, “I wish you were like other moms and baked cookies.”)
So, what do you do in these situations? Do you talk smack about them, or go directly to the source?
How to be a Real Woman
Upon turning 35 (today), I’ve been reflecting on what it is to being a real woman. I don’t know the exact time I became a real woman. I know in Junior High I was caught with my foot in my mouth when I said something negative about a fellow classmate. She found out and confronted me. Best lesson I learned in Junior High. I’ve forgotten all my pre-algebra.
Having Isabelle made me a woman. I was young – 25, going on 26 – and my priorities shifted. Isabelle was the most important thing in life, and I looked at the world as a mother. Also, age and wisdom have honed my real women skills. I look forward to what the next 100 years bring.
Plesae don’t take this blog as a manifesto on perfection. I’m not perfect, and I think we are all ‘perfect in our imperfection.’ But before you roll your eyes, or whisper a snide remark, take a look at this and decide if you are a real woman.
Real Women don’t roll their eyes. Real Women smile.
Real Women apologize. Let’s face it, we all screw up. But do you own it and try to make it right?
Real Women go directly to the source. Did someone upset you? Go to them directly to them work it out.
Real Women don’t talk about other women. Real Women talk with other women.
Real Women don’t trash talk with other women. Real Women change the subject, “How’s the weather in Miami?” or boldly say something like, “Great minds discuss ideas; Average minds discuss events; Small minds discuss people.” (from my friend Jasmine)
Real Women form boundaries, and educate people as to what those boundaries are.
Real Women celebrate others’ success.
So, you feel the urge to bad-mouth or tear down, I would ask you to stop, think quick, and smile.
Because we all have something to smile about. – xx Alicia
(What is your definition of a real woman? Please share in comments below.)
Social media has changed the world forever. In just 140 characters or an update to your Facebook status, you have the potential to connect with a complete stranger in the same town or across the globe. In an instant, Friendships are being formed. Business is taking place. People are connecting. And the world will never be the same.
But it isn’t that easy…
Many people are standing on the sidelines of social media, unsure of how to jump into the conversation and contribute their thoughts. There is uncertainty about how one can form bonds with people they have never met “face to face.”
Are you one of many asking the question, “how?”
That is why we are here and you can know one thing for sure… You are in the right place! We have teamed up with Ricki Lake, one of the most engaged celebrities on social media, to share 5 tips for connecting with people in an instant on social media.
Watch this video to hear Ricki Lake’s #1 Tip for Connecting on Social Media
2. Be Respectful.
Leave judgment at the door and respect that other people on social media have beliefs and opinions that are their own. This is what makes them unique! Just as in offline relationships, if you want to make friends, you have to be one first. If you want people to respect you, start by being respectful of them.
3. Be Inspiring.
People like social media for many reasons. Many will share that they feel uplifted and empowered to live their best life by connecting with inspiring and positive people. If you want to make a lot of friends on social media, be inspiring. Be encouraging. Be a friend.
4. Be Generous.
The more you offer to help others in life, the more “likeable” you will be. When on social media you can help others by supporting their work. Take the time to mention people, and give them positive feedback. When you re-tweet or share the content of others they feel good and are more likely to appreciate and connect with you. Remember, “it’s not about me, it’s about we”.
5. Find a Fun Community!
Following a hashtag community on Twitter or joining a group or community on Facebook is a great way to connect with people who are like you and who are usually looking for the same type of connection you are looking for. Twitter and Facebook are the largest gathering of individuals on the planet. Communities are simply small groups within. Think of communities on social media as you would small break-out sessions at a very, very large conference. The name on the door is the community. Pick the door that tells you that you share common interests with those on the other side. Then, open the door, step inside and say hello via a tweet or a post on the Facebook wall. You will be surprised that many are waiting for… you!
So you may be asking How do I start? Lets take the example of the Friends of Ricki community.
First follow Friends of Ricki on Twitter. Introduce yourself to the community and join the conversation (Don’t forget to use #FriendsofRicki hashtag and cc: @AliciaDunams I’d love to say HI!). Then like the Friends of Ricki Facebook Page and comment on posts on the page that interest you. There are all kinds of weekly activities and hot topics on this page that are fun to talk about and share. Next you could also then follow @RickiLakeShow on twitter and Facebook and tell the show you are one of the #FriendsofRicki. Respond to tweets or even repost tweets that interest you and look for people to connect with in the stream. Always stay courteous. Never include multiple community hastags on a tweet and enjoy!
If you love it, then your friends will probably too, so don’t forget to invite them to join the @FriendsofRicki party!
Do you have any ideas or questions about making connections on social media? Please leave your thoughts in the comments and let’s discuss.
In 2007 I wrote the book Goal Digger: Lessons Learned from the Rich Men I Dated, and over the past 4 years I’ve received countless stories from women on how they experienced similar lessons themselves. So now it’s your turn. Please share with me your stories so you can appear in the “expanded and revised” edition of Goal Digger.
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How many of you, when feeling down, funky, or un-motivated, turn to a self-help or personal development book to get an extra shot of MOJO?
Well, I was pleasantly surprised when I saw the following tweet earlier this month from @sparkwisdom.
Let me tell you, reading that comment got my MOJO working!
It’s a wonderful feeling when something you say (with your tongue or a pen) motivates people into action – one smile or “butt kick” at a time.
It’s an awesome feeling, isn’t it?
Here is a list of Six Ways to Motivate one smile or “Butt Kick” at a Time:
Tell then a funny story that has a moral that speaks directly to their situation. (For example, when my daughter was partaking in a bit of 9yo gossip, I told her about the time I spoke behind someone’s back in junior high, only for it bite me in the butt. Lesson learned: Don’t talk about people. If so, be prepared to talk about it directly to their face.)
Buy them a self-help book. Tell them to read and report back 5 things they learned.
Write a self-help book. Writing a self-help book is cathartic for you, and your closet family and friends. It forces you to research personal development principles and master those skills. Give the book to your family and friends. They will be inspired.
When they complain about the same thing over and over, ask them “So what, now what?” That statement forces them to come up with a solution or shut-up.
Every experience in life has merit. Help them find out the positive in their circumstance. There is a positive in every situation, although it may sometimes take years and decades to find this message.
Gratitude. Help them write list of of things to be grateful for – when they come from a place of gratitude, they realize there is little to complain about.
How have you motivated people into action – one smile and/or “butt kick” at a time? Please share your stories below.
NOTE: If you haven’t read Goal Digger, you can get a free sample on Scribd and Kindle, even if you don’t own an eReader. Enjoy!
Sensuality. This is one of the most misunderstood words for women in business today. It’s a shame because the majority of us our leaving 90% of our power untapped when we lock this away. It’s not our fault though. For more than 100 years the meaning of sensuality has been twisted and polluted by everything from feminism to our ambition to achieve business success.
It now has a negative connotation. We associate it with being crafty, seductive, weak or being someone’s play thing. Wearing miniskirts and lip gloss. Flirting. Shame. Being subservient to men. Manipulation. Well, I’m happy to tell you that this couldn’t be further from the truth.
Merriam-Webster’s definition of sensuality is “relating to or consisting of the gratification of the senses” or “devoted to the senses”. During the years I in Italy, not only did I become acutely aware of the Latin root of the word, but I made an even bigger discovery. I saw sensuality lived out – daily. I witnessed what it meant to live sensually. True sensuality involves living with all 5 senses: sight, sound, smell, touch, taste turned on.
Once you liberate yourself and discover the truth, you can access power that can create astounding leaps in all areas of your life – personal and professional. Crush fear that blocks you and stunts your growth. So just how messed up are we? How does this lie manifest in our lives?
During a conversation, a client confessed she was never wore her hair down, bright colors or skirts when she went to speak at conferences – especially “hairy leg” conferences (where men are in the majority). Why? She feared men would not take her seriously.
What are a few ways a lack of sensuality and pleasure can manifest in your life?
Depression, fatigue and anxiety
Numbness, lack of fulfillment and feeling void
Low energy, burnout and sluggishness
I invite you to step into this power. Challenge yourself and the false beliefs you may have about sensuality. Discover firsthand what they can do. These secrets have been around for thousands of years. I rediscovered them living in Europe. Sensuality and magnetism flood your life with positive energy.
Five simple ways to use sensuality to transform your life and business today:
SIGHT. Make sure you always look like you love yourself. Even when you’re feeling a little down, dressing sensually can make all the difference. Wear that dress or skirt. Use makeup. Let your hair down instead of pulling it back in a ponytail. When you look in the mirror, you’ll see how amazing you look. When you are out on the town, the looks and compliments you get will add to your happiness. Dress nicely at home. Looking good to feel good should be a priority 24/7. It makes a huge difference even when we are on calls with clients even though they can’t see us. It has a major impact on your energy.
SOUND. The obvious thing would be to listen to music you like more often. However, I’m going to take this a step further. Why not create a few life soundtracks? Put together a compilation to listen to when you need to get pepped up for sales calls or meetings. Put together a compilation for when you’re feeling a little anxious, and so forth. You get the point. Also, adding a water feature to your home office can have a wonderful effect on you and your productivity. Plus, it’s very soothing.
SMELL. Stimulate your sense of smell daily. In addition to using a signature perfume when you go out, wear it at home (even if you are alone). Make this about your pleasure first and foremost. Aromatherapy and bubble baths are amazingly relaxing. I have different recipes to use depending on how I want to feel – relaxed, joyful, sensual, rejuvenated, etc. Let’s not stop there. You can also stop to take in the aroma of the delicious dishes you eat.
TOUCH. Stop the quickie “lather up and rinse off” showers and make sure you set aside time for a sensual shower. Use a textured sponge or soft-bristled brush to clean your skin when you take a shower or bath. Move it slowly and lovingly over your skin. Infuse love into each stroke and touch. Tell yourself how much you love that part of your body. Be thankful for it and what it does for you.
TASTE. Are you guilty of inhaling your food? Do you eat lots of canned and frozen foods? Has your palate been ruined by too much salt or sugar? One of the biggest gifts I gave myself was cleaning my palate while living in Europe. Avoiding food that is too salty or sweet is the key. You can gradually cut back on the amount of salt and sugar you use. You will begin to taste the true flavor of food – vegetables, fruits and even if you eat meat – it will taste better, more authentic. Eating should be enjoyed and pleasurable. Mom was right. Chew slowly.
These simple ways to involve our five common senses are just the tip of the iceberg. You may not think they have an effect on your business, but trust me, try this for a week or two and you’ll see just how powerful it is. What it does is add pleasure to your life, making you feel better and vibrate at a higher level of energy and exude positivity. Nothing compares to a woman who loves herself and treats herself likewise.
We are never completely in our power as women unless we harness the 6th sense – intuition. Did you know that in addition to the previous six senses, there are 3 additional ones? They are responsible for bringing your desires into your life. This is the reason so many of us are leading numb, unfulfilled, mediocre lives – professionally and personally. It would have to write a series of articles just to scratch the surface of these three extra senses, so I won’t discuss them today.
I am going to do something better and more beneficial to you. I invite you to discover and tap into sensual power secrets that have been around for thousands of years. Ancient secrets I discovered while on a 10-year version of my own Eat Pray Love experience living in various countries, like Italy, the Netherlands and Sweden. Join me and other women entrepreneurs world-wide on my upcoming complimentary call. Get the details here www.TheSensualSuccessfulWoman.com
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Rhonda Cort is author of the forthcoming book “Don’t Trade Your Money For Love” and founder of MagneticWoman.com. Rhonda is a combination of love rainmaker, sensual power expert and social success mentor who helps time-crunched female entrepreneur build unstoppable confidence that attracts love, high-caliber men and social success that builds her health, happiness and bank account. Rhonda invites you to discover the sexy truth and unleash your sensual power with a complimentary video series, “Sensual Secrets of the Successful Woman” at www.SensualAndMagnetic.com
Having met this phenomenal lady earlier this month, I’ve decided to designate Ricki Lake, actress, producer, and television host, as “Goal Digger” of the Month for February, 2012. I founded the award to honor and celebrate women for their entrepreneurial spirit, positive attitude, innovation, and desire to motivate and empower other women. Ricki Lake is the second recipient of the award, succeeding Kimora Lee Simmons, who was named January Goal Digger of the Month.
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